I recently went to a 12 Step Support Group. I love the women that are there! I am so grateful for their courage and strength. Something that we discussed after the meeting was the right way to go about getting disclosure. Mine happened with Jeff telling me with just the two of us. It was hard. I don't know if there is an easy way...well, there is never an easy way...but maybe there is a somewhat more painless way to navigate it. If anyone knows what that is, PLEASE SHARE!
In trying to educate myself about this I found the article below. I am still processing through it. As with any other resource, there are things that stand out and are helpful and others that are not. So, please don't take this as "the gospel truth" but please do glean from it the things that speak to your soul:
Rethinking Disclosure . . . Working With Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma